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Live the life you want to live!

19 Aug


Time flies when you are having fun! Why does summer go by so fast?  Why does life seem to fly by in the first place? As one ages, and it doesn’t matter what age we start school, our days, weeks, months, and years seem to pick up pace and just fly by.

My theory is that the more you enjoy what you do, the faster your days pass by. If we love our job, marriage, parenting, family, learning, etc. then life is easy, usually calm, and time flies! If we have significant challenges, choose the wrong job, don’t enjoy our children, and don’t have an optimistic support group, getting from one day to the next can be unbearable.

Some suggestions for enjoying life:

1. Surround yourself with happy, optimistic people.  If you can’t find any you are looking in the wrong place.  “To live the life you want to live, hang out with the people who are living that life”- Robin Sharma

2. If you hate your job, change.  Not necessarily the job, but that might be necessary. I suggest you change yourself.  Come in with a new attitude, meet some new people, talk to your boss, but stop doing the same thing over and over.

3. Are you immediate family relationships healthy? If not, don’t ignore them. You can choose your friends, but not your family.  Life is short so don’t wast time. Plan something special, take a vacation, seek counseling if necessary, but this is mandatory for you to stay healthy.

4. Look forward to something! Whether it is a vacation, a purchase, an event, a dinner out, or a golf game. Plan your life or your life will plan itself. Taking everything for granted is okay sometimes, but planning on a wonderful life is much better.

All the best,

Dr. Brian Wallace

Recognizing your own value

15 May


Change your thinking to knowing that your life matters and that you are important.

It can be easy sometimes to buy into the illusion of our own insignificance. We may see large corporations or institutions, celebrities or successful people in our community, and compare ourselves to them, thinking that their fame or material power affirm how little our own lives amount to.

But nothing could be further from the truth. Every single one of us matters—tremendously. Our very existence affects countless people in countless ways. And because we are each essentially a microcosm of the larger universe, our internal experiences affect the whole of life more than we could ever imagine. The world simply could not exist as it does now if you, or any one of us, were not in it.

Perhaps you are aware that on some level you believe your life does not matter. If this thought resonates within you, maybe it is time to explore why you feel this way. You may have formed self-rejecting or belittling beliefs as a child to keep yourself safe or to help you make sense of confusing situations.

You may have felt unseen or unheard and decided that there was something wrong with you, rather than with the attention span of the people around you. Spend some time looking into where these feelings of insignificance first took root, and see what changes you might be able to make in your life and in your heart.

This one belief in your own unimportance could be limiting you and impacting your life in enormous ways. When you shift your perceptions around your own ability to affect your life and impact the world, you may discover wonderful parts of yourself that you had long ago forgotten.

There may even be exciting new parts that you never even knew existed. When you gain awareness of how much your life really does matter, new sources of energy can emerge and your sense of connection with the world is renewed.